Asking for Help

In some of my seminars I have been asking the question:

Do you ask for help in your workplace and in your life?

Most of the audience, at every seminar, said no they do not ask for help.  When I asked what their biggest reason for not asking for help at work was they said something like “It will look like I don’t know what I am doing”.  The interesting thing is, when I asked the audience if they think that same thought about a colleague that asks for help, they said no! 

In their personal lives the message was similar, something like “I should be able to handle this on my own” or “I don’t want to bother anyone”.  Should we be able to handle everything on our own?  Is it really possible?

Sometimes others offer their help, and we turn them down for much the same reasons. 

What if you were to ask for or accept help? 

How could your life be changed for the better if you did?

Small Acts

“There is no act that is too small to make a difference”  I heard this statement in a commercial talking about making change in your community and the world.  It also relates very well when you are moving through a transition in your life or undergoing any personal or professional growth.

All transitions happen one step at a time.  Some steps are so small we barely feel like we have taken them, others are (or feel like) giant leaps but each one counts!  

Small acts within a transition can be a phone call that broadens your knowledge, a chance meeting that opens your eyes, a moment or experience that develops your confidence.  Each of these small acts build upon each other and have tremendous impact on your growth.

What small acts will you take today on your path of personal or professional growth?

Shortcut to Happiness

I read that statement in a quote recently.  So many of us are searching and waiting for happiness.  Searching for that ideal career, special relationship, goal weight that once found will bring an overwhelming wash of happiness and fulfillment into our lives.

There is nothing wrong with wanting and creating the above.  What we don’t realize though is that in our quest for those ideals, we lose sight of the happiness that is right in front of us already.   Those achievements may be meaningful and important but happiness can and does exist without them.

So today, instead of waiting for happiness to arrive, what if you took a shortcut to happiness and brought it out of your current career, current relationships, and current body?  What if, instead of waiting to be happy someday, we looked for evidence of it’s current existence in our lives as they are today.

Someday can start today!  Someday is right here already!