To me, Absolute YES is when you jump in, choose something, make a commitment with no doubt or hesitation.
This could be about a purchase you are making (as small as a new outfit or as large as a new house) to a decision you are making (as small as what you are having for lunch or as large as a new job).
How do you know something is an absolute yes?
Sometimes it is a gut feeling
You “just know” it is right from somewhere deep within
Sometimes it “checks all the boxes”
It fits the criteria you had in mind
How can you use this when making a big career choice/deciding on a new job?
Ask yourself
“what would make me say Absolutely YES to this?”
When you answer that question, it may sound something like
“I would say absolutely YES if….
- I could have…..
- I could do……..
- I would be……….
- It felt like………….
When you create this narrative/list in answering this question, it shows you, with clarity, what you truly want.
It goes beyond what is on the surface (If I was paid X or if there is flexibility) to deeper criteria that really matters. Remember, we are not talking about what would just be nice, or good – we are talking about what would make you say Absolutely YES, with no doubt, no guilt, no remorse.
Can there be fear present with an Absolute Yes? In my option, yes, there can be.
How is that so?
Fear does not always stop.
How often does fear act as a driver for you? It may feel like excitement – “wow, I can’t believe I’m doing this but I am” or “this seems crazy but right at the same time”
Absolute Yes’s are not always logical
They do not always look perfect on paper, yet there is something there that allows your full body and mind to go for it – and that can seem scary at times.
What have been your Absolute Yes’s in your life and career?