Turning Should into Want
Whether you are imagining what you want for your life and how you are planning your next move or creating new goals to shoot for…
Understanding the difference between wants and should is an important part of the process – why?
When you plan your dreams/goals around something you believe you “should” do, what often happens is… absolutely nothing! Your best intentions are at a stand-still, which often leads to guilt and just plain feeling badly about yourself. Sound familiar?
How do you really know whether your goals/dreams are based on something you Want vs think you Should have/do? Here are some signs to look for…..
They have different energy and drivers
Should – often feels like a push, an ultimatum you may be placing on yourself
Want – feels like more of a pull or sense of excitement, peace or contentment
Different inner thoughts/language
Should – I must, I need, it is expected that I…
Want – I desire, I ache for, long for
Different behavior
Should – stall, reluctance, resistance, procrastination, go through motions
Want – action, engagement, conversation, researching, to do actions
Different emotions
Should – resentment, frustration, bitter
Want – pleasant, excited, eager
How to turn a should into a want
Focus on WHY – why do you feel you should – is there a want buried beneath?
Focus on how you WANT to FEEL about that topic and what that means you want